Thursday, February 26, 2009

I would like to address a post to an occasional reader who goes by the name of Ubiquitous.

It may come as a surprise to you to realise that I don't actually like you. It may further surprise you to know that this has nothing to do with our history or any wrong you may or may not have done me at any point (or vice versa). It is simply that your personality and mine do not match, and something fundamental about both of us prohibits me from liking you. It is at least as much myself as you who is to blame for this; I was essentially a child when we knew each other well and I have grown and changed considerably since then.

This blog exists for a couple of reasons. Firstly I created it as a diary, a memory aid, so that I could look back on what I'd been doing and feeling and thinking at any given time. Secondly, over time, this blog has become part of a network of friends and a way of keeping in touch.

I acknowledge that a blog exists in the public domain and that I have no right or power to actually stop somebody reading it. However, as you are not my friend and can have no real reason to be here, I ask that you restrain yourself from visiting as much as possible and refrain from leaving comments or any evidence of your presence at all.

Please don't think that this is my way of dealing with critisism. Critisism, particularly from you, does not worry me. I am not that insecure. I just want you to get over me, and leave me alone. I've tried to be sort of nice, but now I just want to be honest. Nobody else I dislike bothers contacting me, I see no reason for you to be different. Thank you, and goodbye.

6 comments:

Cazzie!!! said...

And with that said.... moving on.... well Done Stace, what can I say. We are so alike in many ways. You have other more important things to think of. Some people just do not deserve our valuable time!
ON another subject, guess what? I had the most frustrating mkorning dealing with Bigpond on the phone today. It reminded me of your blog post about it. They did not know what either hand was up to in that phone room in Manilla! They have now lost us as customers at Bigpond!

Stace said...

Hey Cazzie :) Sorry to hear of your probs with Telstra... I suggest iinet, if you're wanting to change - that's who we changed to (for both phone and internet), and it's been great so far :)

Cazzie!!! said...

Thanks for the heads up Stace. I shall tell husband about it STAT!

Ubiquitous said...

Ooh. A post just for me. Well, if it bothers you so much that you feel the need to announce it to all who listen, then fair enough. I will take my permanent leave of abesence.

But I think it speaks volumes that you cannot tolerate my presence or have any feelings of friendship towards someone me. You're absolutely right, you were a child when we met, and no doubt you have grown considerably since we went our separate ways, but some things will never change and your rudeness and intolerance is definitely one of them. I hope you continue to grow and change to the point where you can actually see the positive in everyone, even if you're not great friends with them. The world is not black and white. Good and bad. Right and wrong. Friend or enemy. I may never be a great friend of yours, but it seems silly to make absolutely no attempt to be on speaking terms. As I said though, if that is what you want then I will respect that. But you should know how I feel about it, too.

And perhaps this reply will make me appear to be the one who lowers himself to pettiness, whereas you remain composed (albeit scathing and without the slightest hint of remorse for your actions and words), but I think it needs to be said. You're obviously a physically grown woman now, but you still have a lot of growing up to do before I'd actually consider you an emotionally mature grown woman.

I know that nothing I say will worry you. You're completely secure in yourself, right? At least, you want that to be so. The Stace I knew had a very tough outer shell, but she was probably the most insecure person I've ever met, at times. I don't believe you've changed that much.

Anyway, congratulations on making what is essentially a private issue a public one. Then again, I guess that always was your way of dealing with things. Cue memories of ridiculous, over the top public fights in #Onlytrivia. Ahh memories... I suppose that is the whole point of this. I'm a sentimental person and I'd like to think that even if we have very little to do with each other's lives anymore, we could at least be on speaking terms, and I've tried on a number of occasions to reconcile. I suppose it isn't reciprocated, but I feel a bond for the people I've spent time with in my past and I occasionally reminisce about my life and the memories I've shared with others, whether the memories be good and bad. I guess you're just one of those people who refuses to look back. Fair enough.

Goodbye.

Andrew said...

Hi Ubiquitous - yes your reply does appear to lower you down to pettiness. Especially as you have been the only one to personally attack the other on this post, and have made often made rather poisonous comments. - Now if you excuse me I will new personally attack you...

Hi Stace - dont listen to what Ubiquitous says. He is a silly-billy. We know what a great friend and a great person you are. If you want a cup-of-tea who know how to find me.

I'm disappointed, I thought I had the record for the longest comment - I guess I will have to rectify the situation.

What do you call 1000 lawers at the bottom of the sea?
A good start.

Ubiquitous said...

Andrew: But of course, Stace was never petty or immature in this exchange...

And no, I wasn't the only person to make personal attacks. Stace's words were obviously carefully chosen to avoid them appearing overtly emotionally-charged, but what is saying "I don't actually like you" and saying she dislikes me (by association) if not personal and poisonous? Hmm?

Given that you likely don't know even half of the background behind Stace and I, I don't think you're quite qualified to tell her what I am and whether to listen to me or not. Stace could well be the 'silly billy' in this encounter and you'd be none the wiser. I'm sure Stace is a great friend to you. And anyway, being a good friend doesn't make them faultless in every way, so it seems like a redundant comment - one no doubt intended to reassure, but as Stace rightly said, my criticisms don't worry her.

Anyway, I didn't really want this to turn into a debate with everyone else so I shall stop here.